Hobbies are a wonderful thing. They take you away from the pressures and stress of work, marriage, children, and everyday living. They give you an opportunity to recharge and refocus, and keep you sane by presenting you with an opportunity to do something you love.
Hobbies, however, often take a backseat to “more important matters”, particularly when you have a family. When you were single, your job and your hobbies probably did not lead to a contest for your time and attention, as they were practically all you had to do. Now that you have a family, there are other responsibilities.
Is your hobby getting in the way of your marriage, causing strain or even a silent yet growing resentment? Are you pining for those days when you were free to do what you wanted without the guilt? Here are a few ways you might be able to get those days back and not cause unnecessary pressure on yourself or your spouse and children.
Openness Is Necessary
First of all, you have to make a few promises and keep them, not the least of which is being able to continue doing your responsibilities. You may have to devise a timetable or improve your time management skills.
Be open with your spouse about your plans. They deserve to know how you feel about the hobby, that it is not competition, and that it is helpful to you. Something that helps you stay happy must be helpful to your family, as well. In other words, instead of causing stress on your marriage, your hobby must enrich it.
Be Open to Suggestions
Recognize if your spouse is making an effort to understand or even join you in your hobby. For example, even if your spouse has not experience or taste at all for collecting and reading classic novels, they are trying, and they are willing to listen when you talk about the books you’ve read or purchased. But be open to suggestions and be sensitive about how your spouse truly feels. This is the part where you must both be willing to make compromises. You can’t force your spouse to like your hobbies, but you can help them understand that you need them and you are open to suggestions regarding how to manage your time.
Don’t Fill Your Home With “Hobby Stuff”
Your fishing items shouldn’t be in the corner by the kitchen. Your books shouldn’t occupy half the bedroom. The sight of these items can start the problem your spouse has with your hobby. Forcing your wife, for example, to park on the curb because her half of the garage now belongs to your collection of toy soldiers, is inviting trouble. Keep your home neat and devoted to family things, not just yours. Rebuild an old shed or get a self-storage from bondstoragesb.com in Santa Barbara, CA, where you can keep the items you value so much but your spouse doesn’t care for. A shed or a storage unit is also a perfect place for tinkering with your hobby, as long as you keep to a schedule.
Hobbies should bring color to your life, protect you from boredom, and make you happy. They shouldn’t cause additional strain on your family life.